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Thursday, July 29, 2010

My daughter is hurting and I don't know what to do

This is my daughter Kristin, she is 16 years old and part of my world, my life, my everything.  She contacted me at 2 AM this morning and was/is very upset.  I know that teenagers go through rough spots, as I did and I'm sure we all did growing up.  I mean let's face it, being a teenager at any time period or generation is not always a picnic. 

Kristin has been going through her rough time now for months and I am beyond worried for her.  I just ache when I hear her cry or sad.  My heart just breaks for her and her pain that she's going through.  As a mom I want to protect my kids from anything that can go wrong in their lives, but it just seems that its one thing after another with her that she goes through.  I know she is suffering from depression and I know from personal experience that its so hard to get out of the pit once you're deep into it.  I have given Kristin all my advice on what I have done and lived through as to try and help her and talked to her hours on end and it seems that she's just not the same happy, strong-willed, silly, and determined girl I knew a year ago. 

I have talked to her dad who has custody of her and my son Kevin about this and he almost refuses to see that she needs some type of professional help at this point.  I do not want to go into some of the ugly details that surround my worry with her, as I do not want to embarrass her.  I just know that something has to be done here and my hands are tied.  Being the non-custodial parent leaves me with nothing but advice to my ex-husband which 99% of the time goes unheard.  He merely thinks that Kristin is lazy and doesn't care about anything.  He is so hard-headed and it makes me so angry that I cannot get through to him the seriousness of the current situation with our girl.

Kristin and I are very close, closer than anyone and I love that she can talk to me about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING that goes on in her life.  We have such an open door relationship and she knows that I'm always here for her.  But one day I am afraid that just won't be enough.  I'm afraid that day is quickly coming, and I am scared to death for her and what could be.

I just wanted to write alittle about this in the hopes that someone out there would have some new advice for me or that you can say a prayer for my baby girl who is so lost now in life.

Thanks and take care!

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Cindy Adkins said...

Dear Christy,
Your daughter is so precious--and beautiful! And I'm so sorry that she is going through a difficult time...she is such a doll!
I am going to email you...I sure hope it gets to you...

Cindy Adkins said...

Hi Christy,
I was not able to email you, so please send me an email to:

after the word lou it is an underscore--not a dash.


agypsyangel said...

I will pray for her to find the guidance and wisdom she needs. Please know that you email me anytime if you need to chat. Thinking of you and praying for you and your beautiful daughter.
Kim :)

Julie (Legacy Crafter) said...

Hi Christie,
I will surely pray for your sweet Kristin. Just a thought to suggest she take a nice long walk everyday, which should release endorphins (sp?) and help her feel better hopefully.
Use your worry energy up by talking to God and asking His help. He is good and cares deeply for you and your daughter.
Blessing with hugs,

Sweet Tea said...

My youngest dd is 16 and I know exactly what you are talking about. Teenage depression is something to be taken seriously and not just written off as a phase. So good she will talk to you - that's BIG. Keep looking for answers till you're satisfied that things are better. a Counselor, a Mentor, A physician, journaling, etc. We recently got a puppy and I have been amazed at what a positive this has been. You'll find the answer. ((HUGS))

Scrapping With Sherry said...

I am so sorry to hear that your daughter is going through a rough time. It is so hard to be 16! It is so hard to see your daughter in pain. I only have 1 daughter. She is 24, but sometimes it seems like she was 16 just yesterday.

The only advice that I have for you is to pray that the lord guide you and give you the words to say to her. To not judge her...

~Sherry F.

Renee said...

I'm really sorry to hear this. I will certainly pray for her... especially because I know how she feels. I've felt that way many times. I think a big thing with depression is to find out what is the root of the problem and deal with that. Diet is another thing that could cause depression. If she eats a lot of foods filled with bad carbs, it can cause her to feel depressed for no reason. Eating fresh fruits and veggies helps to clear your mind. Sometimes finding a gift she has and helping her to develop it helps to give a sense of accomplishment that helps to improve the way she feels. I really hope she feels better. She is so beautiful. I'm not a doctor, but I do know how she feels. (Another thing that helps solve the root of the problem is to find Scriptures that say the opposite of the way she feels. There is so much in the Bible that tells us God loves us, does so much good to us, will give us our hearts desires, gives us freedom, and heals the brokenhearted. This has really helped me!)
I hope this helps!

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